Eva Tind discusses emotional costs of adoption in her latest book

Author Eva Tind explores the theme of adoption and the emotional costs associated with being adopted in her literary work. In her latest book, she addresses the sense of loss stemming from not growing up with her biological family. However, this feeling is not merely a sense of absence; Tind describes it as an additional burden. She likens the experience of being adopted to a job, stating, “It feels like work because I constantly have to go back and start over.” A comment from one of her children resonates with her sentiments: “You have to invent everything from scratch.”

Despite growing up in a loving family, Tind notes that they are quite different from her. “Many interests, thoughts, and actions I had were not reflected in them,” she explains, which led her to seek connections elsewhere. This process, she believes, has involved more effort on her part compared to others since she lacks both physical and temperamental reflections from her family.

In addition to the emotional challenges, Tind highlights practical difficulties when accessing healthcare, particularly given the lack of knowledge about her biological history. “When you don’t have a family history to refer to, it places a greater burden on you,” she points out. Often, when visiting a doctor, adoptees are asked about their family’s medical history, which they are unable to provide. She emphasizes that this knowledge gap can significantly impact their health outcomes, leading to challenges in navigating medical care.